Modern society, which the Polish philosopher Zygmunt Bauman calls “liquid”, is defined by instability and rapid change. This instability is also reflected in interpersonal relationships, where love seems to be more fragile than ever. In Bauman’s view, love in this era is volatile, consisting of momentary feelings that can disappear as quickly as they appeared.
Andra Purcărea, astrologer and counselor
Recent studies show that more and more people under 30 are ending up single, for various reasons. The most affected are women between the ages of 16 and 29. They are more prone to chronic loneliness than men in the same age group, according to a study by the Campaign to EndLoneliness. In this context, we observe a frequent phenomenon around us: those who seem to simply have no luck in love, and despite their efforts, end up disappointed.
The signs that show you that he doesn’t really love you, he’s just taking advantage of you!
and councilor Andra Purcărea brings up a possible explanation. In an interview for Click, Andra tells us that more and more women get involved in relationships in which they are not really loved, but in which they are just “convenient” for the man next to them. Here are the signs that show you the truth!
Andra, can you explain to us what would be one of the signs that indicate that a man does not really love us?
Social networks are an integral part of our lives today. They allow us to connect with friends, family, and share special moments in our lives. An essential aspect in a healthy relationship is for your partner to be proud of your relationship and not hide you from the online world. It’s not about turning your personal life into an Instagram or Facebook show, it’s about making yourself feel seen, appreciated, and most of all, a visible part of his life. Sure, at the beginning of a relationship it’s normal to want to keep things to yourself. The first few months or even the first year can be about intimacy and exploring your relationship. But if years go by and your partner is still hiding from you or doesn’t show their relationship publicly, especially if it’s a serious relationship or marriage, then things get a lot more complicated.
A man who loves you and owns the relationship will not hide you forever. I met women who were in a relationship for years and their partners refused to post or publicly acknowledge the relationship. The reasons cited were like “I don’t want to make my personal life a public topic” or “I don’t want to provoke jealousy in the online environment”. But when these excuses become a long-standing habit, they are no longer acceptable.
I completely understand that some men are more discreet and don’t feel the need to share every moment on social media, but there are subtle ways that a partner can show that they are in a relationship. A simple story with subtle details – a hand, a frame, a discreet hint – can make a huge difference.
“If you’ve been together for years and he still appears ‘single’ on social media, this can create a toxic dynamic.
Many men say that their jobs do not allow them to expose their relationships, perhaps because they hold a public position or because they want to keep certain personal aspects away from the prying eyes of colleagues or clients. I understand this point of view too. But even so, there are ways he can show he’s in a relationship without exposing your face or intimate details.
In such cases you need to have an open and honest discussion with him, understand the reasons behind his behavior and see if this reflects a deeper problem.
Your relationship doesn’t have to be constantly exposed on the internet, but it doesn’t have to be hidden either. I’m telling you clearly: don’t accept less than you deserve! A man who loves you will always find a way to show the world that you are part of his life without hiding or questioning your place in his heart!
Andra Purcărea is an astrologer and personal development advisor with years of experience behind her. After astrological consultations with more than 300 women, he decided it was time to make one to help them figure out if the man next to them really loves them or if they are wasting their time with the wrong person.
