Between self-sabotage, criticism of others, indecision or rejection. Constantly criticizing a child will have permanent effects.
It’s a constant dilemma for mothers and fathers: should we criticize, point the finger at the child, when the child acts in a way that we don’t agree with, that we think is incorrect?
Sometimes parents don’t even want to criticize, their principle is never to criticize. But at the moment… Hot…
Psychologist Brittany McGeehan warns that constantly criticizing a child has an impact on that person when they become an adult. More specifically, they carry emotional impacts that influence your relationships.
The eight most common challenges related to criticism are these:
Self-sabotage
Persistent criticism can erode self-esteem, leading individuals to believe they are not “good enough” for healthy relationships, despite evidence to the contrary.
Criticize others
Some project their feelings of inadequacy onto others, setting excessively high standards or becoming too critical to regain control.
Indecision
Being constantly corrected as a child makes it difficult to trust one’s own judgment, frustrating those around them.
Fear of rejection
Many avoid forming connections due to deep fears of rejection, preferring pleasant (even if unnatural) behaviors to ensure acceptance.
Difficulties in setting limits
The difficulty in asserting limits often arises from the fear of criticism, leading to excessive commitments or inauthentic relationships.
Poor self defense
A history of suppressing personal desires to avoid criticism can prevent effective communication of your needs, leading to resentment.
Intimidation tactics
For some, criticism becomes a driving force in achieving success. While this can be motivating, it often involves fear-based methods, eroding personal connections.
Limited contributions to the family
Paralyzed by the fear of failure, others may avoid pursuing fulfilling careers, possibly causing financial strain and family conflict.
But psychologist Brittany McGeehan also leaves suggestions for improving, for taking care of yourself. Or try.
Challenge personal perceptions
Recognizing that feelings of inadequacy are not factual, but habits, can be a crucial step in building trust.
Recognize your value
Reflecting and listing positive attributes, even if it starts with small gestures, helps develop self-esteem over time.
Accept compliments
Learning to accept compliments, starting with small exchanges, can promote comfort with external validation.
Find templates
Observing and being around individuals who demonstrate self-compassion and confidence provides a positive framework for self-acceptance.
Seek therapy
Professional guidance can bring other perspectives on harmful patterns, linking past experiences to current behaviors and promoting greater kindness towards oneself and others.
