Opinion Text of Deborah Henriques. We are all great. Always. We are so rude in this. As long as no one eats with an open mouth or singing to the table, everything is fine. But would any of us be prepared to hear “everything bad” as an answer? Like this? We had all we all awake tacitly that this is not how it is done?
I learned very early to say please and thank you. It greet it and apologize. Respecting the elders. Arriving in hours, eating with closed mouth and not singing at the table (I never realized the latter, but I registered). I learned very late that ‘no’ is a valid answer. That we do not always have to be happy, strong, competent and unshakable. That sometimes it is even necessary to open my mouth, under penalty of implosion. And that our limits deserve as much respect as we have the limits of others. I learned very early to distinguish the right from wrong. I learned very late that they are not the same for everyone and that sometimes there are certain wrong and wrong who get it right.
How useful it would have been having emotional intelligence classes instead of quantitative methods. The way I would have learned to keep the drawers from within, when they taught me not to have clothes spread throughout the room. It must have been clearer when I learned to ride a bike, which is not bad to fall. It’s part.
They teach us to disinfect wounds in their knees, but no one remembers explaining that the wounds from within do not heal with quick pensions. We were not programmed to have a bag of psychological first aid at hand. We wouldn’t even know what to put inside. It seems absurd to defy the apathy or put compresses in anxiety.
When they told me about this “Guide to Mental Health Tag”, now released by the Portuguese Red Cross, it has occurred that this is the only lack of education that does not bother. It is that bad education socially accepted. We allow her to feel with us at the table. But is anyone obliged to know how to deal with their own or other people’s sadness? Why do ray have to learn to stop wounds that don’t see each other? Or learn to listen without haste and without run over? Not to force a smile on someone who just needs to cry?
We have all heard a “it passes”. A “animate you”. Or equally innocuous variants like “it’s a phase”, “you have calm”, “thinking positive”. Of course the intention is the best, but we have all concluded, ever in life, that the effect is inversely proportional. No one taught us to be better.
Certainly it will not be with this text that someone will stop asking “okay?” When you cross with someone known. We learned to live with rhetorical questions and automatic answers. “” All right? “All right and with you? – Okay, too.” End. No one expects much more from this recurring interaction in our lives. Who asks does not equate another hypothesis of response. Those who respond, do not want, do not know, cannot or cannot answer anything else. We are taught to disguise sadness. We are formatted to be okay. It’s easier that, let’s simplify.
We are all great. Always. We are so rude in this. As long as no one eats with an open mouth or singing to the table, everything is fine. But would any of us be prepared to hear “everything bad” as an answer? Like this? We had all we all awake tacitly that this is not how it is done?
This “Mental Health Tag Guide” arises in the context of European initiative E4Health and is a beautiful way to teach us good manners. Good ways to take care of each other and take care of each other. There are testimonies from people who, you see, went through times when it was not “okay”. It has the professional contribution of psychologists and health experts who have good ways to teach us. Small details that do not require great effort and can make all the difference in interaction with the other.
I have read and heard some comments from people who consider that the theme of mental health was trivialized. Because “now everyone talks about it.” Because “now everyone has depressions and burnouts“But if we talk so much about the topic and clearly we still know so little about what truly matters, it won’t be preferable to sin for excess? And talk about it? Talk a lot. As possible.
This guide is now available and in physical format. With free distribution. There is no excuse for education absences.
