The question in the air is: who came out more worn out, who offended or offended? Each episode of public criticism, especially in digital times, exposes more who talks than who is talk
Ariano Suassuna, with her unmistakable humorous vein, left us a pearl: “I think it’s a very big lack of education. Isn’t it? Talking, talking badly ahead of which he hears, embarrasses who says.
A teaching attributed to Sigmund Freud states that it is worth observing who criticizes than who is criticized. “When Peter speaks of Paul, I know more about Peter than Paul.” By pointing his finger to criticize, or velve the voice to praise, as Suassuna said, in the back, the person shows his true face.
Since the world is the world, political and corporate life has lived infested with slanderous comments. In some cases, they act out of envy, in others for weakness or insecurity, and even ingenuity. For one reason or another, the reputation of those who have this damnable habit ends up harming their own image than that of the offended.
Each one who takes care of his dead
We all need to be aware to avoid this human tendency to highlight failures or defects in others. One of the authors who appreciates most is Manuel Bernardes, one of the greatest preachers in history. At one point, he discusses “his own knowledge.” Their reflections are deep and loaded with wisdom:
“Asked a holy monk that ready medicine would have to expel the thoughts of judging the faults of others, replied: When the forerunner killed the firstborn of Egypt, each family had his dead at home, and he mourned, without meeting the misfortune of his neighbors.
Yes, if each of us takes care of their own problems that bubble in abundance, it would already be a commendable attitude in the pursuit of good behavior. Suassuna used humor and sarcasm to convey an important message: criticism made in the dim light, in the dark corners, distant from the criticized, can be considered cowardly. If the criticized was participating in the conversation, would the critic courage to utter the same words?
Who harms the most?
Criticism and cursing are no longer limited to the moment and circumstance. When, for example, he cursed, the repercussion was international. Even Lula tried to soften the situation. The question in the air is: who came out more worn out, who offended or offended? Each episode of public criticism, especially in digital times, exposes more who talks than about who is talking about.
And still reverberating the play of the Paraiban writer, criticism without filter, direct, almost always assault, disqualify, diminish people and create malaise. Flávio Gikovate said there are several types of critics.
Critics for all tastes
One of them is the radical. For these people, or someone is right or wrong, there is no gray space. It stressed that these individuals are not necessarily mean, but they admit no failures, as if all human beings should be perfect. They do not choose victims, as they criticize family members, co -workers and friends.
Sometimes it is necessary to criticize
There are those who judge themselves above good and evil. Their criticism aims to belittle people. They only feel good when they can inferiorize the targets of their criticism. They are vain, petulant, proud. They feel enormous satisfaction to demonstrate knowledge.
Gikovate indicates the situations in which criticism is justified: when someone asks for help to correct their failures, and in cases where the hierarchical function, by professional obligation, requires this kind of attitude. It is up to a manager, for example, correct behaviors and attitudes to achieve the desired results. The masters also receive this carte blanche, because to teach almost always need to show the good way to their students and ward off mistakes and misconceptions.
We can learn from criticism
Even in these cases, criticism cannot be aggressive and must be based on solid foundations. Aside from these exceptions, criticisms should be avoided as they are harmful to relationships and harm self -esteem.
If, however, we must learn not to offend with disarray comments, we also need to know how to receive a criticism. Although it is offensive or malicious, we have to assess whether we could take advantage of the comment for our improvement and growth. It is not easy to act correctly, either by criticizing or receiving criticism. But with discipline and goodwill, we are improving each day. Follow by
*This text does not necessarily reflect the opinion of the young Pan.
