There was a clear thing in the past: the adults said that the children had to obey. Who “please” and “thank you” said his room tidy up and behaved at the table was considered good. Children who dared to discuss with adults were poorly brought up. It was punished, scolded, threatened. Today it looks very different: Most young parents do not educate their children authoritarian, but needs -oriented and gentle. This means that raising has become a constant negotiation, a balancing act between freedom and leadership, between limits and give in.