New research suggests that couples gossiping together have higher levels of trust and happiness.
That return home in the car after a party where gossip on all the details? According to a new investigation, this may be one of the healthiest parts of your relationship.
One from the University of California, in Riverside, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, found that the Couples who stir together They report higher levels of happiness and emotional connection.
Investigators have monitored 76 couples using a device called Electronicly Active Recorder (EAR), which captures excerpts from daily conversations. On average, participants passed about 38 minutes a day Making gossip and 29 of those minutes were with the partner.
“Whether we want to admit it or not, everyone makes mexorine,” said the main author, Chandler Spahr. “The gossip is omnipresent.“The study did not classified gossip as inherently positive or negative. Whether the conversation was critical or praised, the act of sharing opinions seemed to strengthen confidence, reinforce emotional alignment and promote the feeling of being“ in the same team ”.
Senior author Megan Robbins, a psychologist, explained the appeal: “We talk about everyone at the party-who said what, what is happening to their relationship.” Far from being petty, these conversations can serve as moments of unity.
The research also revealed differences between the types of couples. Same sex pairs reported greater general well-beingwith couples formed by women leading both the time of gossip and relationship satisfaction.
Relationship Therapist Shamyra Howard states what this type of exchange builds emotional and social intimacy. “Whether harmless, cultural comments or your own daily reflections, magic is in share a perspective that belongs only to both“, These.
For those who are not naturally attracted to gossip, the expert has offered alternative ways to build the same connection: talking about her day, reacting to television programs or news, planning or recalling shared experiences, pointing out things that happen around you, or asking “what’s your opinion about X?”.
