Singer and actress Nela Pocisková (35) is a full-time mother. She has a son Hektor (9) and a daughter Lianka (7) with her partner Filip Tům (47). The family honestly guarded its privacy, but Nela has now decided to change. In her new music video for the song “I have everything” she showed the faces of her children for the first time. In the marquee Teleráno morning show, the singer spoke about what led her to this.
She had been toying with this idea for a long time. “You know what? It was such a process, I would say, because I struggled for a long time with how to understand it, because just like you said, I’m still trying and I kind of have it in me to protect them in a way as much as I can, as long as I can. But on the other hand, this is something that will stay here forever and it’s kind of a legacy for them, a legacy for us, they’ll be able to look at it,” she explained.
When Pocisková added photos of her children to the social network, she always put some text or other image on their faces, but they themselves began to complain about it. “They are already at an age where they themselves ask me why I have a sticker on my eyes and why I have such a text on my eyes, so they already register it and they themselves told me that they just want to be there and want to be seen. But I still didn’t want it to be completely like the first one“, she revealed.
She is happy with how the clip looks in the end. “I am very happy that Zuzka Šmatláková and Laci Palmai, who are responsible for this video clip, were able to materialize it the way I imagined it, because they are and they are not. It’s still not quite the first time, that not everything is shown, and I told myself that I’ll keep the most intimate shots at home, but it’s… it’s the first time. I said to myself that it’s something that has a deep meaning for me and it’s really the most personal thing, and I think it just belongs there,” she said honestly.
How did her partner react when she told him she wanted to show the children in the video? “We have been dealing with it for a long time and it was quite a rather complicated process in my opinion, because on the one hand we are… They are so amazing and beautiful that I want to show them to the whole world and on the other hand I still have the need to protect them and Filip the same. So Filip was like that at the beginning, as if he was asking me why now and why specifically just at this momentNela continued.
But in the end he let her have a free hand. “But he supports me in my work and in my music, so he told me that when I feel that way, it is something that is mine and if it will be to a certain extent simply in some symbols and some hints, then he leaves it completely up to me, that if I’m okay with it, then he stands behind me. So it was a process, but he gave me a quasi-free hand in this, since it’s also mine,” she revealed what they were dealing with behind closed doors.
The clip is very personal to her. “I wanted it to be very authentic, honest, natural and only about that emotion, but that really sincere love between us in that relationship… I have to hold on now… I hold on. Because actually, I don’t really know, I have such mixed feelings now, since I’m also a little ashamed, because actually we watched the whole thing here, now we’ve seen the whole thing here and it’s the first time for me that it’s like I’m officially confronted with something similar, so I have completely new feelings that I haven’t known before, I’m also ashamed, I’m also moved by it, I’m also happy about it and I don’t know,” she said with tears in her eyes, which the moderator Marek Polomský also noticed and handed her a handkerchief.
In the interview, they also returned to the period when Nela withdrew into the background at the time when she was pregnant. She later admitted that she experienced burnout. “I actually don’t know how to describe it completely with the passage of time. But, I think that those children really saved me, because… And that’s there in that text too, because I I had a lot going on at a very young age and I had a period when I just overdid it a little in my opinion, so I felt that it was enough, that I had to relax a little, and so I naturally withdrew after that,” she recalled of this period.
It came naturally. “Actually, when Hektor was born, I stopped and I had a good reason, because it was almost forgiven or whatever you call it. And I understood, when my children were born, that where is the real meaning of life and that they are really everything. They helped me a lot to find that distance“, she said emotional words.
Before the birth of children, she saw things differently. “I understood that everything that I perceived until then as something that is most important to me in life is actually completely meaningless and that the fact that I might fail at something, or that someone writes some hate, or that I simply sing a false note is actually… I began to perceive it from a distance, they gave me, as it were, such an overview of both my work and my life and I found out that if the curtain closes on the stage and you have nowhere to go, it’s all for nothing,” she explained.
He perceives them as his haven of peace. “So this is as if it’s the gro of the life, actually, really even if I have hard times, or even if whatever is happening in life, I just know that I have somewhere to go back to and that I have safety, that I have that support and that I have that pillar of support and that they just… I come home and they don’t judge you. They love you,” Nela let herself be heard.
He takes raising children as a mission. “I think it also gave me a certain freedom, because actually what a person can do, maybe now I don’t know if I’m not doing it completely perfectly, because we all make mistakes, but how to bring up some human life next and at all in general it will give that woman terrible self-confidence, which, of course, I lacked before, that kind of self-confidence (self-confidence, editor’s note), so I also acquired some of my own inner self, and I’m also happy that I even people say from the neighborhood that they now feel that I am experiencing the most beautiful period. Because that’s how it really is,” she admitted.
Even the presenters agreed that she was glowing. “I confess that I, probably due to age, experience and everything around me, have reached the stage when do I value myself more, when do I do more than if I recognize some value and when do I start to be free in that I don’t care a bit what others think and that is a wonderful feeling, I wish it to everyone” added the singer.
