Avoiding scandals on December 25 and 26 is a real challenge in many Polish homes. After Christmas Eve pleasantries, people often stop keeping up appearances and keep their mouths shut. the most difficult stage of family feasting begins.
Now a space is opening for conversations that rarely end well, because some people choose to be “painfully honest” and raise topics that have been swept under the carpet all year. If you don’t want to ended in conflict, you need to know when to bite your tongue. Which topics should not be discussed at the holiday table?
What are the worst topics to talk about at the Christmas table, which should be avoided at all costs, and which, unfortunately, are often brought up by sarcastic people? It is primarily a matter of faith or lack thereof. Talking about going to church is a direct path to conflict (especially between generations).
Another sensitive issue is child planning. This is an intimate matter that should concern two adults and not be discussed publicly among the entire family. This topic can be embarrassing, painful and an invasion of privacy for many couples. Just like a conversation about divorce or a failed relationship.
The third topic that should not be discussed during the holidays is appearance. A sarcastic comment about someone’s figure, weight, tattoos or hair color not funny at all. It lowers a person’s self-esteem and spoils the atmosphere. For some reason, there are still people who think such conversations are appropriate. It’s a lack of tact.
That’s not all. There are other sensitive topics that should also be avoided. One of them is wedding planningbecause more and more people are consciously giving up on marriage. For some it may be a nice and pleasant conversation, while for others it may cause discomfort even despite good intentions.
Conversations about who a person is dating are also a private matter. You should also not comment negatively on someone’s choice of job or educational path. Last, but not least, there is a classic: a note about food choices.
You shouldn’t get involved in the fact that someone avoids gluten, doesn’t eat meat or fish, or doesn’t feel like eating cheesecake because they decided not to eat sweets. Before opening your mouth, it’s worth thinking twice whether we would be happy if someone else made such comments.
