With just five minutes and a closer look, you can avoid great emotional pitches
Do you know that strange feeling you feel when you meet someone? As if your sixth sense shouted “red alert”? Yeah, perhaps it is not just paranoia – psychology has something to say about it.
In a world where everyone looks nice at first (even Disney villain has their charm today), learning to identify signs that a person is real bad can be a real superpower.
The good news is that, according to experts, it is enough five minutes of conversation – and a lot of attention – to capture warning signs.
The bad news? A lot of people still ignore these signs thinking they are exaggerating.
So come on: How to identify a really negative person before she becomes a protagonist of her personal drama?
How to find out if a person is really bad, according to psychology
Be wary of who:
- Interrupts all the time (this may indicate egocentrism or contempt);
- Ignores what you say, changing the subject or not asking questions (hello, empathy?);
- Reacts poorly to light criticism or stressful situations – those who do not hold their own stress can discharge in others.
These behaviors may be indicative of manipulative, aggressive or simply disrespectful trends. It is not judgment, it is observation.
The body speaks (and sometimes shouts)
Body language is a powerful ally. Closed posture, crossed arms, look that escapes more than politician in CPI? They are signs.
A face that does not follow the words, for example, may indicate falsehood or emotional disconnection. Of course, none of this is sentence – but it is good to write it mentally.
Want to go deeper? Ask questions about how the person deals with conflicts, frustrations or errors. The answers (and how they are given) can reveal a lot.
Someone who avoids responding or blame always may not be exactly a good teammate – or life.
Judging someone in five minutes is not exact science. But it is possible to perceive patterns, especially if you are aware.
The important thing is: trust your instinct, use reason, and remember that often who warns (or feels) friend is.
Deep down, better understanding the other is also a way to protect themselves – and to cultivate healthier, sincere and, why not, less toxic relationships.
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