More and more mothers are using AI tools to help them manage their children’s daily lives, such as choosing meals or gifts for their children.
A growing number of mothers are adopting artificial intelligence as a tool to manage parental responsibilitiesgiving rise to a new wave of online influencers promoting AI as a way to reduce stress and ease the mental burden that falls disproportionately on women.
The trend gained prominence through stories like that of Lilian Schmidt, a mother from Zurich who says she turned to ChatGPT after years of struggling to put her little daughter to sleep. After conventional tips from pediatricians and sleep experts were unsuccessful, Schmidt asked the chatbot for help.
The AI suggested a surprising solution: providing more stimulation before bed, including activities like chewing gum or jumping on a trampoline.
“It was completely different from anything I had ever heard,” Schmidt told . “Within five minutes, my daughter fell asleep. I thought, ‘Oh my God, no one could help me except ChatGPT’.”
The experience transformed Schmidt into a active advocate of AI-assisted parenting. In 2025, a TikTok video titled “I Turned ChatGPT into My Coparent” went viral, attracting thousands of followers. Later, it launched a custom AI assistant called “Coparent” designed to to help parents manage scheduleshousehold chores and responsibilities with children.
@heylilianschmidt The prompt that made my mom life 10x easier As a full-time working toddler mom, life moves FAST. And even with a loving, supportive partner I still often feel like the default parent. Because the mental load? Mostly mine. Four months ago, I hit a breaking point and was like: „Wouldn’t it be nice for a change if I could just turn my brain off and say things like: „What’s for dinner?“ „What should we get Emma for her birthday?“ „Just tell me what I need to pack for daycare and I’ll do it“ „Oh there’s no grocery list yet? How will I know what to buy?“ That day, I turned ChatGPT into my co-parent – and my life got 10x easier. Now, ChatGPT… plans a week of healthy meals my kids will actually eat writes the grocery list – sorted by aisle finds the perfect birthday gift AND helps me write the card creates daycare and travel packing lists I can just tick off ♀️ lets me finally turn my brain OFF for a minute and breeeeeathe And the best part? Whenever I ask it to something, it just… does. No follow-up questions like „Where do I find that?“ or „Okay, but which one?“ – it just DOES If you’re drowning in mom life and want a co-parent who never forgets the sunscreen or asks you to write things down, you’ll find the exact prompts in the comments! This one’s a game changer, mama ❤️ #coparenting #chatgpt #chatgptformoms #mentalload #workingmom #toddlermom #sahmlife #defaultparent ♬ Manchild – Sebrina Cerpenter
Schmidt is part of a growing community of “AI Influencer Moms” who argue that artificial intelligence can help alleviate the invisible work that mothers often do. Their content promotes AI tools for meal planning, organizing appointments, writing messages, generating children’s activities and managing family logistics.
The trend emerges in a context of persistent gender disparities in domestic workwith mothers who work outside the home continuing to spend significantly more time with their children and household chores than fathers, despite increased male participation.
“For women and mothers, there is an immense invisible work that they carry,” said Schmidt. “Everything is in their hands.”
Proponents argue that AI can help mothers be more present and less overwhelmed. However, the move also attracted criticism. Opponents point to concerns about the environmental impact of AIthe potential displacement of jobs, and the risks associated with increased reliance on AI.
Critics also argue that AI may simply make women more efficient at managing the responsibilities that society still expects them to shoulder, rather than helping men start taking on more responsibilities. While some parents are beginning to adopt these tools, the vast majority of users in parenting AI communities they are still women.
Stephanie Leblanc-Godfrey warns against the danger of portraying AI as a feminist solution in itself.
“If you use women’s insecurity or the idea that AI is feminist as a starting point, the focus was kind of lost”, he criticizes.
