The kindness of ourselves is opposed to the efforts to enjoy others- but for some reason it is hard to let us in that line. We tend to satisfy, help, be helpful – but at the end of such days, when we want to give away and go against each other, fatigue is catching up and a strange aftertaste remains far from a good feeling. This should be the raised index finger that will teach us to give us first of all – to have something to draw on when giving away others.
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Let’s look at a few situations in which we can let our need and desire over the wishes of others without much damage and remorse. Basically, it’s very simple:
1, … for it is driving and belonging to – After a busy working week, there is one free day, during which you want to stretch under a blanket and look at 10 episodes of the series. When suddenly – there is an “irresistible” offer. The autumn family barbecue, to which you are invited, was fast. You will take place in your head: Well, in any case – and then the thoughts of what will think of you will come to think about you, considering that you actually have and could, if you don’t have a “doctor’s pass” or other serious reason not to participate. Try to say: “I would like to spend time with you, but I need a rest this weekend. I like to join another time.” You will see what liberating it is!
2, … because you know it better/nicer – Have you found yourself doing things for people that they could and should do themselves? While you spend the evening over your colleague’s presentation, she has been happy to post on Instagram Stories from pleasant moments at the concert. You will be annoyed at that time, because you could spend the evening and differently – but in an effort to please and satisfy, with an “overtime surcharge” in the form of praise, which could easily be manipulated, you are working on her project. Instead of receiving a task, say: “I have other plans for this evening and the preparation of the presentation does not fit into them.” Self -love often also examines the strength of relationships and friendships. How does a colleague react? This may not bother you. You just need to try it.
3, … because without you it will not be “it” – You do not want, you can’t, you feel that you are going against yourself, but someone still finds a miraculous formulation that unwillingly forces you to do the exact opposite of what you feel and you want. You know that the next day you will have a job interview for the position you longed for a long time. But they belong to your friends will pull you a lot for dinner in the city, and at every effort to go, sleep and capitalize on the preparations will pull you back between yourself. They enjoy your company and you are less looking forward to the next day at a interview, where you clip your eyes and regret every minute you have not spent in bed. Instead, it was supposed to be resolved“You will certainly enjoy this evening without me, but I will be happy to make up for it – and offer a substitute date.” This elegant “no” is a manifestation of self -love and self -esteem and the ability to say no and not try to satisfy at all costs is exactly what you need to train especially if you often go against each other at the expense of others.
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A small “no” can be a big “yes”
The kindness of yourself is not selfishness – it is energy that you can then devote to others when you have the strength and taste. And yes, it also includes a little joy that will make you smile. Maybe the evening with a book. It’s easy as shapes and symbols in The Collection. Choose a jewel that reminds you every day that not forgetting yourself is really easy.
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