If there must be a top throne. Columnist in Les Maternelles (France 5), but also author, and at the helm of the Sage-Meuf podcast (Slate), she shares her advice and experience with young parents. After Postpartum lasts 3 years released in January 2023, she offers her new work a year later Baby clash, becoming parents without gutting each other. Mother of two children (born in 2016 and 2018), she experienced it herself and worked with more than one young parent during her experience as a midwife. In contact with couples during the postpartum period, she was able to realize the damage of this famous baby clash, which she describes as follows: “The baby clash, if I had to define it simply, is the fact, for a couple, of clashing (being in dissension, arguing, or even separating) after the birth of a child. Is this a reality? It seems so to me.”
But what if the baby clash didn’t only have bad sides? This is what the professional delivers in this well-thought-out book. We often imagine the inconveniences and damage caused by this transformation from a loving couple into a loving and parental couple. A transformation that is not always self-evident. Arguments, reprimands, and incomprehension are naturally on the menu. So much so that “many couples are afraid of the baby clash, even if, between you and me, we hardly thought about it before being confronted with it“, she explains. But then should we really be so afraid of it? According to Anna Roy, not that much…
Anna Roy reveals why not to be afraid of the baby clash
“The good news is there’s nothing to worry about : by dissecting the subject, we quickly understand that the baby clash is a small player, writes the one found alongside. Either we crush it quickly and well (we are stronger than that), either we let him come because we need him, or we separate because we took the wrong path. Yes, sometimes things clash for very good reasons. Sometimes the clash is liberating. The choice is therefore: it offers the couple to know each other better and strengthen themselves, or to leave each other to flourish separately. Thank you, blessed baby clash !“Then you will have understood, there is no reason to apprehend him. Let him enter your home. And above all, read Anna Roy’s book Baby clash, becoming parents without gutting each other.
